Books for the Grieving

We received books on grief from lots of different people who have walked through different types of grief, loss, or suffering. I wanted to share the ones I have read (some I finished, some I did not) and which I love. And hopefully in sharing these, if you are grieving the loss of a child or know someone who is, here is a resource for you.

A Grief Observed by CS Lewis - a book for all seasons of grief, a book that I will probably return to again and again.

Holding onto Hope by Nancy Guthrie - this book spoke directly to my heart because it’s about child loss. And it walks through the story of Job. I could probably read this every 6 months and it would speak to my heart in a new way each time.

Lament for a Son by Nicholas Wolterstorff - its short and concise, a love letter in some moments and a stream of thoughts on death and grief after the author's adult son dies hiking/climbing. We actually read this in Uganda for an Apprenticeship assignment and I reread it last fall and it obviously had an entire different meaning to me.

Not pictured: How big is your umbrella? by Sheila Wray Gregorie which I read, it is short and practical and I liked that about it! Also, Surviving Sorrow by Kim Erickson which I have not yet started.

I started When the Stars Disappear by Talbot and The Jesus of My Grief by Katie Kelty but didn't finish either. Some of the books on grief start with the author's grief stricken story and sometimes that is a heavy burden to read when you already feel like you are in the midst of your own grief filled story.

I know we received a few others that I am forgetting. I'd love to know if you have a specific book that has spoken to you as you walked through grief.

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